Divorce Etiquette Done Right

April 7, 2010

Kate Winslet & Sam MendesThis is so great, Kate Winslet and Sam Mendes are currently separated but still present a united front when taking the kids to school.


Starbucks Etiquette

April 2, 2010

When a full third of the workers in the U.S. are freelancers there are bound to be issues that pop up regarding using the local coffee shop as an alternative to your home office. Whether you are a regular just there for a quiet latte or the one holding court hogging all of the prime seating, there are some courtesies that will make everyone’s daily caffeine intake a little more digest-able.

The first rule of thumb is that if you are there for a meeting buy something. I always feel guilty meeting someone at a cafe and they don’t order anything. Even if I’m treating. If this happens I try to order a few items that I can snack on later just to justify the last hour that I spent at the much coveted window table.

If you are meeting or just trying to get some work done try to keep your sprawl under control. It’s not cool to use more than one table especially when the cafe is crowded.

If you do find it necessary to use your phone in the coffee shop please make it brief, there’s nothing worse than having to sit next to someone who decides to complete his entire days call list within earshot of your much needed coffee break.

The 19th Century’s Version of Online Dating

February 15, 2010

Even in 2010 many believe that online dating is not an organic enough way to meet people.  That it’s too impersonal, that they prefer the old fashioned way to finding their Valentine.  Read the profile below which was part of an Op-Ed in yesterday’s NY Times.    Don’t overlook the date the date this profile was written.

A young lady of 18, wealthy, pretty and agreeable, wants a husband. Not finding any one of her acquaintance who suits her, she has concluded to take this method of discovering one. The happy gentleman must be wealthy, stylish, handsome and fascinating. None other need apply. Address within three days, giving name and full particulars, and enclosing carte de visite, Carrie Howard, Station D, New York.

June 5, 1863

To read the complete article and other 19th Century personal ads go to:  http://www.nytimes.com/2010/02/14/opinion/14epstein.html

State Dinner Crashers Walked All Over Social Code

December 10, 2009

State Dinner Crashers Walked All Over Social Code By crashing a White House state dinner, Michaele and Tareq Salahi trampled countless protocols, the social, business and networking bedrock of official Washington.  See the whole NY Times article:  i54

Has Casual Friday Become Too Casual?

October 18, 2009


Friday is, hands down, the best day of the workweek. Not only is it the last working day, it’s usually in conjunction with pay day, summer hours and, if you’re lucky, a casual dress code.

But how casual is too casual?

Remember Casual Friday at TV’s favorite paper company in Scranton, Penn.? One Friday at Dunder-Mifflin, Oscar showed up wearing sandals, Stanley in a sweat suit, and Mer

edith had the gall to don a mini-dress sans undergarments — not a pretty sight when she ends up exposing herself while using the copy machine. When Angela complains about her co-workers’ attire, Toby calls an office meeting and cancels Casual Friday when it’s clear that certain staff have interpreted the term too loosely.

this might seem like an extreme example of “too casual,” it’s not far off from what employers have seen in their own offices.

Richard Laermer, CEO at RLM Public Relations, says he once had a male intern wearing capri pants, plus many sockless employees and a few with holes in their jeans. All

of these are no-nos, he says.

“I’ve sent people to the corner [near our office] where there’s an H&M, Banana Republic and a Gap,” he says. “I have said, ‘Go get something to wear that doesn’t make you look 12.'”

Mary Harris, an etiquette consultant who specializes in business etiquette for small and large companies, says she visited a client’s office on Casual Friday and saw everything from football jerseys to sweat suits.

“Our culture has gotten so relaxed that casual to many [people] means what you would wear around the house on a Saturday,” she says. “It’s gotten lost that the meaning is still professional but somewhat relaxed.”

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Emily Post: Daughter of the Gilded Age, Mistress of American Manners

September 26, 2009

dcoverI’ve just finished reading Emily Post’s Biography Emily Post: Daughter of the Gilded Age, Mistress of American Manners by Laura Claridge.  I thought this book would be about the perfectly mannered life of America’s etiquette maven but I was shocked to read about the loss that Emily Post had to endure in her life starting with her own scandalous divorce in 1905.  I am a guilded age junkie but this book would appeal to anyone that finds the struggles and triumphs of other peoples lives interesting.